Self-Compassion vs. Self-Esteem: The Hidden Key to Healing Attachment Insecurity
Discover why anxious and avoidant attachment styles share the same core wound, and how self-compassion—not self-esteem—is the key to lasting healing.
mental-health
The Only Guide You’ll Ever Need for Attachment Styles, Part 1
The truth is, though, a lot of attachment content on social media is reductive and surface level (and I have thoughts about why that is here) and avoidants aren’t the only ones to get the treatment. So, we’re going to cover the four attachment styles in a depth that John Bowlby would be proud of, nuance and all, in a series because we’ve got a lot to cover.
Attachment Theory in Motion: Accountability—What Is It Really and How Does It Come Into Play In Attachment Dynamics?
Accountability is integral in any relationship—it impacts if we feel seen, heard, respected, and even loved. The problem with accountability is that it’s a bit difficult to define. To many anxiously attached individuals, it looks like emotional disclosure and validation of their experience. To many avoidantly attached individuals, it looks like behavioral change over time.
Which one is correct?
An Attachment Theory Reflection: The Uncomfortable Reality of Accountability in Healing
The author expresses frustration with individuals who seek validation without self-reflection. They emphasize the importance of accountability in healing and acknowledge their own struggles with attachment and mental health. Through personal experiences, the author advocates for a space that encourages honest self-evaluation and compassion for one’s growth journey, moving beyond victimhood.
The Research Burrow: Safety, Danger, and How We Experience Relational Cues
Have you ever wondered why two people experience the same relationship and yet behave in completely opposite but predictable ways? It can’t just be basic human difference if the behaviors are predictable, and yet why do some people pull away when others lean in? Or why do some victims of assault fight back and others freeze? Many of us were taught that we have two responses to danger—fight or flight—and yet real-life situations produce reactions that fit into neither category.
Attachment Theory in Motion: Broken Promises Are…Still Broken Promises
The piece discusses the emotional dynamics following a missed communication promise in a relationship. It emphasizes the importance of clear, assertive communication through the DEAR MAN framework to address broken commitments. Addressing small issues early can prevent resentment and strengthen the relationship, ensuring both partners feel understood and secure.